The definition of quality time is as follows:
qual·i·ty time
noun
1. time spent in giving another person one's
undivided attention in order to strengthen a relationship, especially with
reference to working parents and their child or children.
I used to think that quality time could only be spent in person, but that was widely false; as a master (mistress??) of long distance relationships/friendships, I have learned that quality time can be spent in so many situations! Technically, I don't even have to be in direct contact with someone to give them quality time.
When I test for the Five Love Languages, gift giving is my lowest love language. However, I appreciate gifts oh so very much because I know the time that went into the gift and into getting to know me (and also the time to work to earn money for it!).
If my husband and I apart, we can still spend quality time together with phone calls, skype, texting, and even online gaming together (sadly, my gaming computer is at home with him this semester, so during the week I can't do that...alas!).
In person, we also like to game together whether it's on a tabletop or on our computers or on a console while snuggled on the couch in the living room.
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Quality time isn't just doing activities together either. Sometimes, for me, the time is spent being near each other while accomplishing different tasks, but still taking breaks as needed for eye contact or kisses etc. (If you cuddle while on laptops, it is a risk you take that the laptop will be thrown to the ground to make way for more cuddles!)
When I am far away from my husband, though, the best quality time is when he calls me to check on me and tell me he loves me. That's what gets me through the day, hearing his loving voice.
All of this can be applied to friendships too! (Except the kisses part, then you've gone beyond friends of course) I am so happy when a friend wants to skype, or we spend hours in conversation even if that is through text, that all applies to quality time and fills my love tank. I think the reason conversation works for me so much is because it's tied to another one of my favorite love languages, Words of Affirmation, but that'll be for a later post ;)
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What are your top love languages?
How do you define quality time?
xoxo,
Alexandra Anne
You are so true! Quality time doesn't necessarily have to occur in person. I didn't even think about that when I was trying to write my response for this blog prompt! Hopefully you will get some quality time with a friend or family member today! :)
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